How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

It’s time to set yourself free from the prison of comparing yourself to others. 

How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Do you compare yourself to others most of the time? How does it make you really feel deep down inside? Does it make you feel better or worse about yourself?

Constantly comparing ourselves to others can have a damaging effect on our self-esteem.  I am even guilty of this at times.  When I was growing up, I was always comparing myself to my other four sisters.  I would look at myself in the mirror and think I was not as pretty as them. 

This constant comparison was damaging to my self-esteem. However, I’ve learned to stop comparing myself to others and focus on what really matters in my life, me. 

The journey wasn’t easy.

I didn’t just wake up one day and decide that I would stop comparing myself to others right this moment. It didn’t happen overnight.  It wasn’t like I was just able to flip a switch. No, it took me a while to change that bad habit of mine.

It took a serious commitment to want to change this bad habit. Over the course of time I gradually stopped comparing myself to others, and because of that I have been able to live a more productive life and accomplish a lot more in life. 

I’ve realized, it’s a waste of time, energy, and life all together.   If I continued this bad habit of mine, I would never amount to anything.

This vicious cycle of waking up everyday, feeling like you are not good enough, feeling like there is always somebody who is better than you, prettier than you, sexier than you, living a better life than you, more educated than you, will stop you from achieving the best life you can. 

Did It make me feel better? Of course not.  It never made me feel better at all. It was certainly a waste of energy to feel that way.

So how did I stop comparing myself to others?

How I am now living my best life and living happier than before? How did I set myself free from this toxic habit?

I’ll show you how, because today I’m going to share with you these good habits that I developed to help me stop comparing myself to others.  After you are done reading, I hope this will inspire you to do the same. 

Remember, you are not alone in the fight.  You’ll overcome this. You got this.  You own this.

So to get you started, here are 13 things you can do to break free from constantly comparing yourself to others. 


How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

1. See your own unique perspective.

Envision your own successes even if they are small ones. Become self-aware of your own unique experiences and gifts. We are all good at something, we just have to look for it. 

Understand that you have the tools to accomplish great things in your life. You have the motivation, discipline, drive, and ambition to make.  You may just not be aware of it. 

One small success may not seem like much, but the more successes you rack up, the more you will realize how great you really are. Build your own empire of success and be proud of every small thing you can accomplish. 

2. Desire for the greatest treasures in life.

Yearn for greater things in life rather than wasting your time comparing yourself to others. Some of these greatest treasures in life are generosity, empathy, love, humility, and selfishness.

Desire these higher pursuits of happiness and remove yourself completely from the society’s definition of success. 

Build your own unique happiness by focusing on the greatest treasure in your life. 

3. Practice gratitude.

Being grateful teaches us to recognize the good things we already have in our lives and in this world we are living in. 

Start keeping a gratitude journal.  This will help you realize the many great things in life that you can be thankful about. 

If you haven’t started writing a gratitude journal yet, it would be a good idea to start one now.  Simply start with one goal at a time.

Try to write at least three times per week and you will see how much it can make a difference in your life and the impact it will make on your happiness rather than wasting your time comparing yourself to others. 

Check out this gratitude journal printable that will help you get started on your gratitude journey and help you cultivate happiness by writing down the good things around you.

4. Appreciate more and compete less.

I know in today’s fast paced world competition is fierce, especially for us women. However, there may be times when competition is appropriate and healthy, but life is not one of them. 

Appreciate what you have in your life no matter how small they may seem.  Don’t compare your successes and achievements to others.  Be proud of what you have accomplished. 

Their success is not yours. Build up your own success by not comparing yourself to others. 

5. Change your surroundings.

Next time you find yourself in a situation where you are comparing yourself to others, try going for a walk.   

Go for a walk even if it’s inside your house or if you’re at work.  Just get up and take a little walk for a few minutes so you can divert your mind to something else. 

Even better, if you can go for a nature walk, this will let your mind wander in the beauty of nature.  Smelling the fresh air will refresh your mind rather than wasting by thinking about comparing yourself to others. 

The change in your surroundings will allow for a prompt change in your thinking. 

6. Find inspiration and motivation without comparing yourself to others.

Comparing ourselves to others is foolish, but finding motivation, Inspiration, and learning from others is a wise move. 

Learn from successful people without comparing yourself in a negative way. Inspire and motivate yourself from the success of others without being too hard on yourself.  Learn the steps and strategies they took that put them on the path to success and apply it to your life.

7. Have peace and accept where you are.

If you want a change. Start with acknowledging and accepting where you are.  Instead of resisting where you are and what your current situation is, acknowledge and come to peace with it.  

When you can learn to accept where you have ended up at this point in life, then you can move on to accomplishing great things.  Put the past behind you and focus on the future.

8. Embrace your own story.

Stop wasting your time dwelling on the stories of success of other people.  Your past life might have been colored by anxiety, mistakes, and fear.  

Instead of letting these things bring you down, allow these experiences and stories of yours to help you become wiser, better, fierce, and more courageous version of yourself. 

Learn to love your past and embrace your story.  It is then you will realize how much you’ve grown up and how far you’ve come in this world. 

Be proud of what you’ve done even if it seems insignificant. Be happy and proud for wanting to create a better life for yourself instead of wasting your time comparing yourself to others. 

9. Do a social media detox.

Nowadays, social media has a huge impact on our self-esteem, anxiety, and mental health. 

We are constantly bombarded by a person’s social media platform.  How successful they have become and how happy they are.

Social media can be a great source of motivation and inspiration. However, if it triggers self-doubt, inadequacy, anxiety, frustration, and damages your self-confidence, then partake in a social media detox. 

If you find yourself comparing yourself to others from what you see on social media, then it’s time to do a detox. 

10. Accept that you are not perfect.

There will always be someone who’s smarter, prettier, more attractive, more talented, richer, and so on. Learn to accept that NO one is perfect.

Love and accept your own flaws and imperfections.  Set yourself free by embracing the fact that you are perfectly imperfect. 

11. Compare yourself with you.

Instead of comparing yourself to others, why not make a change by comparing yourself with you. 

Ask yourself: what can you do right now or today to improve the quality of your life? How can you be a better version of yourself and become a more loving person? How can you love yourself more and be nicer to yourself than you were yesterday? 

Next time you find yourself comparing yourself to others, remember this:  You are the only person in this world you can compare yourself with. 

12. Practice mindfulness. 

Next time you find yourself comparing yourself to others, divert your mind by practicing mindfulness.

Mindfulness has incredible benefits, not only to our physical well-being but it can also decrease anxiety, stress, and produce greater productivity. 

Here are 24 simple and easy ways to become more mindful in your daily life.

13. Practice self-care and self-love.

Instead of wasting your energy by mentally comparing yourself to others, divert that energy by practicing self-care and self-love. 

Self-care can make a huge impact in your life.  It can decrease anxiety, improve mood, and improve your relationship with others as well as within yourself.

Self-care is important in order for you to feel good about yourself both mentally and physically. When self-care is practiced correctly, it has long term benefits for our mind, body, and success. 

Self-care habits will rejuvenate your body, mind, and spirit and increase your happiness and ability to be successful in life personally and professionally.

Here are 18 life-changing self-care habits that will help you cultivate great habits rather than comparing yourself to others most of the time. 

Final Thoughts:

Comparing ourselves to others not only damages our self-esteem, but it often leaves us feeling anxious, frustrated, and paralyzed about moving forward. 

Comparing ourselves to others never helps one single bit in creating the life we truly envision and the life that we truly want to live. Instead it just steals and takes away our precious time and energy that could have been spent on building our own empire of great success and future. 

Remember, whenever you focus on what others have that you don’t have, you give away your own unique power. Every single minute you spend comparing yourself to others is a minute you lost that could have been used to create your own life and success. 

So take back your life and your power from all the places, people, and situations where you left yourself and bring it back home. 

Decide that your precious energy will be used for believing in yourself and for creating that life that you’ve always been envisioning. 

Start today. Focus on yourself. Focus on loving yourself. Focus on building your own success. Focus on becoming the best version of yourself and become a shining light to others.

It’s time to set yourself free from the prison of comparing yourself to others. 

Take back your life. Own your life. 

PS: Are you tired of feeling fu*ked up and sick of comparing yourself to others most of the time? Check out this book of Gary John Bishop: Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life. This book will change your self-thought process and motivate you to take a chance, stop thinking and start doing.


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