Do you find yourself overthinking on just about everything in life?
What effect is it having on your physical and mental health? Does it make you feel anxious, stressed, or physically exhausted?
Well, you’re not alone.
So many of us overthink everything that comes our way. Maybe it’s a habit we developed or it’s just the way we are wired.
Today, we will look at ways to combat the issue of overthinking and how to gain control over it so we can live in the present and focus on what really matters in life.
Overthinking can hold back from the life that you truly want to live.
When we overthink every small problem, it can morph into something of immense proportions.
You may have heard the saying of making a mountain out of a molehill.
That’s kind of what you are doing by overthinking on these problems. This can further fuel the anxiety and stress within you.
When we overthink, overanalyze, or deconstruct things down to the most minute detail, we are slowly killing the opportunity to live a life of enjoyment.
It’s alright to take time to think about something like getting a home loan, because this a major financial step in one’s life. However, overthinking about how you are going to conduct your home spring cleaning isn’t.
Thinking about what we should do in our life, career, family, relationships, future, visions, goals, daily activities, and plans are great. However, when you let yourself get lost in the forest overthinking, it’s difficult to find your way out.
Overthinking leads to unnecessary stress, which in turn accomplishes nothing.
I used to overthink things too much, and as a result I ended up accomplishing very little. However, I recovered myself from overthinking and my life has changed dramatically.
I accomplish more goals and this leads me to achieve more success. My relationship, career, and passion for life have all improved significantly.
I am now living my life to the fullest.
Of course it’s not perfect, life will always throw me a curve ball now and then. However, learning to stop overthinking and learning to start living in the present moment has been a huge help in my life.
Although it was not an easy journey, when wake up I choose how I will live my life and how I will respond to the challenges it brings.
I chose to live in the moment and rid my mind of all the bullsh@# thoughts that enter it.
Most of the thoughts that entered my mind were just that.
However, I would over think on these thoughts that didn’t actually happen, wouldn’t actually happen, or would end up not happening as bad as they seem to be in my mind.
So how do you stop overthinking and start living in the present moment?
If you want to free yourself from overthinking and start living a happier life, then keep on reading, because I’m going to share with you the 17 habits that helped me in an amazing way to become a smarter and simpler thinker and live a less fearful and happier life.
How to Stop Overthinking and Start Living In The Present Moment
1.Awareness is the root of change.
Before you start to cope and address the cause of your habit of overthinking, you first need to learn to be aware of when it’s happening.
What triggered it?
What time of day did it happen or is happening?
Whenever you find yourself feeling anxious, stressed, and doubting yourself, step back and look at your situation and how you are responding to that situation.
Sometimes it’s not as bad as it feels.
This technique allows me to become more aware of the present moment and dial down overthinking. It helps me focus my energy and time on what really matters most in my life at the present moment.
When you learn to become more aware, it will be the root of the change you want to make in your life.
2. Think of what can go right. Stop thinking of what can go wrong.
The funny thing is, when you ask yourself what can go wrong, life seems to be able to come up with an answer pretty quick. Instead, ask yourself what can go right.
Don’t overthink on what is going wrong.
We all have something that isn’t going to go right. We can’t control what life throws at us, but we can control how we react. And we can react by not overthinking.
When somebody cuts you off on the highway to work, don’t overthink it. This will only lead to anger and unnecessary stress.
The choice is yours to not overthink the situation and be grateful they did not cause you both to have an accident.
3. Put things into perspective.
So when you start overthinking on the minor things in life, ask yourself:
Will this really matter in my life at the present moment? Will this matter in 5 weeks or 25 weeks from now?
Is this worth thinking about?
Will this affect me 1 year from now, 5 years from now?
When I started asking these questions, I became aware of what was happening in the present and over time it reduced the amount of time and energy I put into thinking about something.
4. Distract yourself with healthy alternatives, happiness, and positivity.
If you find yourself overthinking, don’t feed your body with unhealthy food and drink. I know in times of stress, we turn to comfort food and drink that a lot of times are not the healthiest choices.
Find a beverage that isn’t loaded with a lot of caffeine and sugar. You’re already stressed out and anxious from overthinking, don’t add more fuel to the fire by feeding your body with caffeine and sugar.
Instead, try a tea or some other sugar free beverage. Get creative and heat up some water and add some honey, ginger, and lemon.
Try making a simple snack like a piece of wheat toast with mashed avocado.
Not sure what to do? Check out Pinterest.
They have really healthy alternatives to food and drink. Remember, a healthy body equals a healthy mind.
Not in the mood for food and drink? Not a problem.
There are other alternatives to seeking happiness and positivity in order to relieve your stress from overthinking. Try watching your favorite movie. Listening to your favorite genre of podcasts. Reading. Exercising. Volunteering.
The possibilities are endless.
Check out YouTube and Pinterest for great ideas.
5. Start a gratitude journal. Be grateful.
I highly recommend doing this. It really helps and reminds me why I need to be grateful for what I have in life. When I find myself edging closer to the cliff of overthinking, I remind myself what I have to be grateful.
A home, financial stability, loving family, and food on the table. The overthinking can easily sabotage all of this. I prefer to write it out on paper so I can see all the things that life has blessed me with.
6. Stop comparing yourself to others and thinking you aren’t good enough.
Thanks to the many social media platforms, we are constantly reminded of the many great successes out there. This can cause us to compare ourselves to others and lead us to believe that we are and never will be good enough. Making us think that we had to have been born with it.
We have to remember, that these achievements we see are the end results of hard work and dedication. No matter what anyone says, we all have something we are good at.
A talent. A skill.
You don’t have to sit there and overthink what it is you are good at. Break it down into stages. Start with a list and add to it every day. Maybe only one thing comes to mind.
Jot it down and move on to the next task in your life. You can do what my husband does and keeps a small notebook to jot down ideas that come to his mind so he doesn’t forget them.
7. Stop wasting your time and energy in trying to predict the future.
It’s alright to have a plan in place for the future, but it’s not alright to overthink it by trying to predict what you think the outcome will be.
For example, it’s alright to plan for a possible financial emergency by setting money aside each month, but it’s useless to try and predict what it might be. This leads to overthinking which leads to unnecessary stress and anxiety.
Eliminate the overthinking by having a plan and not a prediction.
8. Create boundaries for yourself.
For example, set a timer for 5 minutes and give yourself the time to think about what is bothering you. Once the timer goes off, spend 10 minutes with a pen and paper and write down all the things that are stressing you, worrying you, or giving you anxiety.
When the 15 minutes is done, put the pen and paper down and move on to something fun, like exercise or playing your favorite board game with a loved one.
I like to refer to this method as my five and dime plan for overthinking.
It’s cheap and doesn’t take a lot of time. It prevents me from thinking too much by creating a boundary for myself.
9. Change your view of failure and fear.
Don’t overthink on what you see as a failure. This can lead to fearful thinking, anxiety, and unwanted stress. The time you give up, is the time you fail.
Learn from these mistakes.
They are not failures, so stop overthinking and seeing them as such. It’s just one way that didn’t produce the outcome you desired.
Remember, winners never quit and quitters never win.
10. Stop wasting your time waiting for the perfect moment.
Waiting and aiming for perfection is unrealistic, impractical, and debilitating.
There will never be that one perfect moment, and if you think there will be, then you will be waiting for the rest of your life.
For example, I like creating and designing printable. However, it took me quite some time to finish just one printable, because I was overthinking it. I wanted it to be perfect.
I wanted the timing to be just right, but then I realized, it’s not practical and it’s just leads me to frustration and anxiety. So I stopped overthinking and waiting for the perfect moment and started doing.
Initiation over procrastination.
I realized I would never progress if I kept overthink and waiting for perfection.
PS: I highly recommend this book of Gary J. Bishop: “Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head.” This book will motivate you to take a chance, and stop waiting for the right moment.
11. Take action consistently.
Become a person of action everyday. Keep the body and mind in motion. It doesn’t have to be some kind of out of this world mind boggling form of action you are taking.
Keep it simple.
Simple progression leads to great things.
For example, I always wanted to create my own blog, but it was difficult working full time as a Nurse. So what I did was to take a little bit of action at a time.
I would spend a few minutes after work researching on how to start my own blog. I started creating a list and added to it a little bit at a time. It didn’t seem like much at the time, but the little action I took paid off and now I am doing this full time.
I am following my passion. My actions were consistent. No overthinking needed.
Easy does it, but do it.
12. Accept that you cannot control everything.
Stop trying to control everything. This only leads to overthinking. Trying to do so simply doesn’t work because no one can predict all the outcomes in their life.
Learn to accept the things you can’t change.
Remember, you can’t control everything that life throws at you, but you can control how you respond.
Exercise can be a wonderful way to alleviate the stress and anxiety from overthinking. You gave your mind a workout, now it’s time to finish it off with some exercise.
You don’t need to overthink this one either.
Exercise can be anything you want it to be. Walking, running, lifting weights, or just using your own body weight.
Thanks to YouTube, there is no need to overthink on what types of exercises to do. Simply type it or say it. Gotta love the 21st century.
14. Get good quality sleep.
When you haven’t slept enough then you become more vulnerable to the stressors of overthinking and stress. Vulnerable to worrying and pessimism.
Here’s techniques I used to sleep better that may work for you too. However, do the things that work for you and are relaxing for you. What works for me may not work for you.
- Have a warm shower before bed time.
- Drink a glass of warm water 2 hours before bed time.
- Exercise for at least 30 minutes, 4 hours before bedtime.
- Turn off the lights.
- Turn on a fan or dehumidifier to create a little background noise.
15. Practice mindfulness.
Learn to Spend more of your time in the present moment. Being Mindful can make a huge impact in our daily lives.
Mindfulness has incredible benefits not only to our physical well-being but it can also decrease anxiety, stress, and produce greater productivity.
Most of us often think that being mindful requires a special activity like yoga or meditation. Yes, those activities are important, but there are also many other simple ways you can be mindful in your daily life.
16. Spend more of your time with people who do not overthink things.
You tend to become like the people you surround yourself with. If you hang out with those who constantly worry and overthink things, then you will begin to display similar habits as well.
Spending your time with those who do not worry and overthink things too much and have a positive outlook on life can be good medicine for your mind and soul.
Also, it can be very educational. You can learn from them on ways to combat overthinking.
17. Set short time-limits for decisions.
If you do not have a time-limit for when you must make a decision and take action, then you will just keep processing those over and over never taking any action.
It’s easy to come up with a thought process for decisions, it’s another thing to put them into action.
Don’t overthink it. Take the leap.
Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Life’s too short. Don’t just make a plan, be the plan.
So learn to become better at making decisions and to spring into action by setting deadlines in your daily life. No matter the size of the decision.
Overthinking is something that can happen to anyone. But if you have a great system for dealing with it, you have a way to combat the anxiety and worry that follow overthinking.
Make the plan and be ready to put it into action when the time comes. When overthinking enters your mind, you can show its ass the door.
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